Dear Chereen, I have been talking to someone for more than a year with the intent of getting to know him for marriage. The problem is he’s not mentioned it in months and when I do he changes the subject or rushes to go the convo has dwindled these days. My parents know I’m speaking…
Author: dearchereen
Advice: Never good enough
Dear Chereen, How do I overcome the feeling of never being good enough? Sincerely, LK Dear LK, But you are good enough, and you always will be more than enough. This feeling could be a variety of things such as not having supportive people around you, a tough and critical childhood, comparing yourself to others,…
Advice: Ghost fiance
Dear Chereen, I was engaged to get married. My fiance ghosted me 2 weeks before the wedding with his family. Blocked us, wouldn’t answer calls, told mutual friends to not get involved, long distance so we let go. Now it’s been 6 months and they have returned asking for us to reconsider because they realize…
Advice: No longer “friends”
Dear Chereen, What do I do about “friends” that I no longer speak to that have taken it upon themselves to treat me badly instead? They were apathetic and vicious during corona, using words to regularly hurt me, with no care about my circumstances. This lack of compassion has me never wanting to be friends…
Friendly Advice?
Dear Chereen, How do I deal with a friend that constantly gives me advice (without me asking) but doesn’t like receiving it from me? Sincerely, D Dear D, Since a friendship falls under the relationship category, then it’s important to set boundaries in order for the friendship to continue to grow. It seems that you…
Dear Chereen, How do I get over a long friendship that faded over time? My heart hurts though I know it’s for the better. Sincerely, K Dear K, Friendships are a type of relationship so it’s natural that they will hurt when they come to an end. You might know that it’s for the best,…
Words heal us
Written by Moin Khan “We’ve tried our best,” the doctor rushed past me. “No, doc!” I caught him by the arm. “There must be a way!” “Mr Khan,” he put his hand on my shoulder, “sh-she is mentally disturbed. She’s not ready to listen to anyone.” “Call a psychologist!” I roared, lifting…
Love is Listening
Written by Amina Kausar According to Paul Tillich, “Love is Listening.” Listening is an act of love often ignored. It goes beyond simply hearing the words that one utters. It’s a beautiful amalgamation of paying attention, making one feel acknowledged, making one feel feel valued and even understanding the words left unsaid. In any relationship,…
Let’s talk about skin
Written by Chereen My skin has been a sensitive subject since I suddenly decided to break out as a young adult. I went from effortlessly clear skin, to full breakouts as a 19 year old. I would have been more okay with it had it not hurt so much. Little did I know, I was…
Resilience
Written by Abeeda Khatoon Human resilience is an incredible thing. Each day, in reality, is paved with uncertainty, but our instincts cling to that which brings us a sense of hope. For some, this hope exists in the routines they have come to know and depend upon; the simple acts that bring stability to…