Deception: The root of shame

Written by: Seada Deception is the act of causing someone to believe something untrue is real. An example of self-deception is “no one wants to be in a relationship with me,” and we deceive our partners by saying, “I never betrayed your trust.” We choose deception to avoid hurting others’ feelings, but the act of…

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Our Friendship Grew Apart

Written by: Seada  Losing your best friend can feel like one of the most painful experiences.  A best friend is someone we entrust with our most intimate thoughts, share little white lies, jokes, and memories.  Losing a best friend can feel earth-shattering and scary. Friendship breakups are as, if not more, complicated than intimate relationship…

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SLOW DOWN, PAUSE!

Written by: Seada STOPP is a strategy that will help you in the heat of the moment when you are dealing with intense emotions. This tool is built in combination with Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It helps to effectively address and manage your emotional response to a challenging, difficult, or rage-inducing incident.…

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Power of Rumination

Written by: Seada If you have ever watched or seen a tornado perform its magnificent work, instantly you will not hesitate to take cover. A tornado is powerful. It uses its force to pick up anything in sight: houses, trees, animals, people, and vehicles. Rumination has the power of a tornado.  Rumination is the repetition of…

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Psychological Symptoms of Addiction

Written by: Seada What is to give light must endure burning. —Anton Wildgans “Buzz, buzz” off goes the alarm at 6:00 am. The week has been dreadfully exhausting and filled with demands, expectations, and meetings. Your body feels heavy resisting another Monday morning. But your resilience stubbornly tasks you to tango with the demands of…

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The Link between Trauma and Addictions

Written by: Seada “Trauma isn’t what happens to you. It’s what happens inside of you. It’s when you’re alone with your pain and sadness, and you cannot process it. Not everybody traumatized becomes addicted but everyone addicted was traumatized” Dr. Gabor Mate. Addiction is found to be a result of unprocessed emotional wounds that developed from…

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We repeat what we do not repair

Written by: Seada Self-harm, drugs, gambling, abuse and the likes. These predominate issues are happening in our communities. Whether we silence the problems to the walls of our home or we consciously extend our issues to a social media platform, problems nonetheless occur in every home. Many people assume that self-harming behaviors are the result of…

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Five love styles

Written by: Seada Milan and Kay Yerkovich developed the five love styles. They outlined five primary love styles and explained how each shapes behaviors, beliefs, and expectations in marriage. The Avoider: The avoider grew up in a home that placed little attention in affection and a significant amount of value on independence and self-reliance. As a…

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Be the light you want to see in this world

Written by: Seada Be the light you want to see in this world. Let not our shortcomings interfere with our greatness. Anger, a powerful emotion, has the strength of iron to invoke all ailments of human character and relationships. Two common issues with anger: The first is self-destruction, a dangerous slope. An individual in a…

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PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR PARTNER

Written by: Seada How do we begin to turn towards our partners? Dr’s Julie and John Gottman (founders of the Gottman Institute) profess relationship improvement begins with paying attention to your partner. Simple gestures are bids for connection. Such as, holding the door open, offering a smile, complimenting your partner, and making eye contact. Eventually…

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