Written by: Barah
Recently, I’ve learned that being a mother is a profound feeling. It’s both exhausting and beautiful.
Being a new mother has been one intense ride. I’m not going to lie and say it’s been a breeze and that I love everything about it. Instead, I’m going to be truthful and say how mentally and physically exhausting it has been, especially when paired with the other responsibilities I have. I don’t currently work outside the house, but being a stay at home mom has been harder than any “job” I have ever had. With baby, everything takes 10 times the amount of time it used to; the house cleaning that used to take me 4 hours now takes me all week to get it all done. The same goes with cooking–I used to take my sweet time, with cooking videos and music playing in the background, but now I try to finish it in 20 mins tops while baby naps. Having my coffee hot has become a luxury, so I just switched to iced coffee.
Being a new mom also means you have no idea what you’re doing. It means you learn as you go, and thank God for that motherly instinct that just shows up when baby arrives–without it, I’d be so much more lost than I already am! Oh, and let’s not forget the invisible stress, the pressure no one sees but you because no one understands how stressful it is to get unsolicited “advice” (demands, really) from others. What’s even worse is this “advice” doesn’t only come from other moms, but from everyone.
Having a baby changes how you live your life; it even impacts your personality and habits. Baby makes you want to fix all the wrong things you do because you want to be the best role model for them–who better for baby to look up to than mom?
Overall, I love being a mother, but sometimes I just want an hour to just be lil’ old me and not have a single responsibility to worry about.
Stay at home moms, working moms, single moms…all moms, you’re amazing and you’re doing great!