Q+A: I’m an introvert
Written by: Chereen
Q: Hello dear, I have this question and I hope you can help me with this issue please:
I’m an introvert. I have a problem, every time I gather with my friends I regret it in the end; because I feel so guilty after each gathering (I regret losing time and energy). In other words, it’s like I feel people empty and drain me, even though they’re good people.
I keep thinking that i’m wasting time. Should I stay alone as much as possible so I remove this feeling?
A: One of my favorite topics of discussion is introverts. I’ve mentioned it before, but I myself am an introvert. Introverts are different, in that the energy they derive is from within (intrinsic energy as opposed to extrinsic, which is for extroverts). Sometimes though, introverts do need to derive energy from others.
Seeing that you have friends, then I take it that you do enjoy the company every now and then. I do feel that groups might overwhelm you, so do what makes you comfortable.
Maybe it’s better for you to hang out with one or two people at a time instead. Maybe you also walk with purpose so time is of the essence.
You could do things that are productive with your friends, and that might help you feel energized after you’re finished hanging out.
You shouldn’t stay alone as much as possible, because then you might become lonely. It could also be that you feel okay hanging out for half an hour to an hour. If that’s the case, then leave when you become uncomfortable or begin to feel drained.
Do what makes you feel good. At the same time, you don’t want to lose your friends.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being an introvert! You just have to know how to navigate in a world that was created for extroverts. ??