Q+A: Introvert helper

Written by: Chereen

Dear Chereen,⠀⠀⠀⠀

I’m an introvert. I don’t like socializing that much. Past few months were quite confusing, so I was constantly online. When I feel like disconnecting I go offline for few days. Now that I post things which help people, should I force myself to do that daily, even if I don’t feel like? Should I prioritize my space for helping people with posts?

Sincerely,

D

Dear Friend,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

While it might come as a surprise to many, I’m an introvert. Due to what I do, I switch as an ambivert. However, my drive comes from within. I need to spend time alone, and I get drained if I socialize too much. It does not make me less pleasant if I do socialize, because I genuinely like people. But that time I get to hang out with myself is incredibly valuable, and that’s how I obtain my energy.

I understand that there are many different types of introverts, but there’s also a misconception that they are weird and unpleasant hermits. I also feel like there is a difference between being antisocial, going through something that causes you to withdraw, and being an introvert. Introverts are more limited with who is in their circle, and there is nothing wrong with that.

My advice to you is to do what makes you comfortable. While it’s likely that you are an introvert, I also know that you’re dealing with some interpersonal and intrapersonal struggles that affect your desire to associate with others and even yourself. So maybe it’s important for you to focus on taking care of yourself before you help others, because you need you the most.

Prioritize yourself first, because you can’t pour from an empty cup. Resolve any conflicts you have with others and focus on obtaining inner peace. It’s important to be in a positive state of mind if you want to help others. This is especially true if you’re introverted; you will need to be extra fueled with energy to be able to continue your efforts. Also, sometimes energy from others is a good thing.

Sincerely,

Chereen