Q+A: They want to move on

Written by: Chereen

Q: Hi,

I’ve treated a special someone similar to how the person in this has described. I took the person for granted and was very lazy and complacent for roughly 2 out of 4 years. Now they don’t want to know me and want to move on.

Do you have any advice on what I should do? Should I continue to try and save the relationship? Or accept it and move on?

A: Hello,

It’s clear that you feel remorse, and that means your heart is working (emotionally alive). It’s good to have a conscience. Sometimes you have to do your best to get through to them, so they know you sincerely apologize. But also, the reality is that people move on and relationships change, or end.

It might be that they closed the door and locked it with the key, or they’re ready to accept a new visitor in their heart. Or maybe they just need time to get over how they feel.

Have an honest conversation with them if they’re willing to listen. Let them know how you feel and see what they have to say. You never know what can come of it. But also, if they do want to move on for sure then end things on a good note. Take this as an opportunity for you to also move forward in life.

It might not be easy, but it’ll be good for your growth.