What’s a friendship?

What’s a friendship?

Written by: Chereen

“Where do we go from here?” You ask yourself every single time they let you down and leave you when you need them the most. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

One-sided friendships. I can hear you let out a sigh in agreement, because you have had your fair share. And this has taught you that heart break comes in many shapes and forms. ⠀⠀⠀⠀

I don’t believe that people are bad, some are more complicated than others and so far along in the wrong path on their journey. But I do believe that they’re inherently good, even if it’s super deep down.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

I also know that sometimes people don’t have the capacity or tools to be a good friend to you. So, they let you down once, twice, and a couple hundred times. And you are left feeling drained after every single experience.

So what do you do? You could simply walk away if you’ve lost your sense of self as a result. You could give them the benefit of the doubt but lessen the value of the relationship within your heart. Or you could let time determine how the friendship changes. It could be that it fades over time, or maybe they found it within them to be a good friend. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Whatever the choice you make, it’s always important that you remain a good friend to yourself. And I want you to know that regardless of the friendships that come and go, nothing should ever be able to replace your friendship with you. Because if you get to a point where you feel you have no friends, you should be able to feel comforted by the fact that you have got yourself. And you are so enough it’s amazing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

If I might add, you’re also pretty wonderful. In case you haven’t had the chance to tell yourself today. ⠀⠀

Friendships will come and go, and sometimes they’re so one-sided they leave you doubting your authenticity. But God created you to have this potential to be great and to do greatness. The more you peel back your own layers, the more you realize how wonderful it truly is to be your own friend.

God is good. I promise you this, my friend. ?


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